So many people I’ve worked with have experienced some form of sexual trauma, ranging from molest, incest, violent rape and even ritual abuse. Sometimes the abuse surfaces as an underlying cause of another issue—weight loss for example. Often though my client is just ready to deal with it—it’s somehow time to get past it and move on.
My approach is to make this work as gentle and distress free as possible. Often there’s some really intense and unpleasant stuff to work through—it’s almost like having to throw up after eating something spoiled. Horrible, but then you just feel so much better.
The good news is that EFT and Matrix Reimprinting are extremely effective and relatively gentle. If we’re dealing with a singular one-time event (even something really horrific), it can often be resolved it in just one session.
Even with abuse that went on multiple times for an extended period, a single session resolution is sometimes possible and would very rarely take more than three to five.
How It Works
Matrix Reimprinting allows us to go back and work with the younger self trapped within the traumatic memory. We’re able to freeze the scene, extricate them from whatever is happening and do tapping with them—which releases the overwhelming shock, fear, betrayal, violation and shame, whatever distress they are feeling.
Working directly with the younger self is very powerful. It lets us get right to the heart of the damage and fix it. And for my client, stepping into the role of co-practitioner (helping me help their younger self) shields them from much of the overwhelming distress their younger self is feeling.
An important part of the tapping is “reframing” the event for the younger self. They come to understand that it wasn’t their fault, that something is very wrong with the perpetrator and this really has nothing to do with them. The shame they are feeling doesn’t belong to them—it belongs to the perpetrator. This is usually a crucial step in releasing the trauma.
Once the younger self is free from emotional distress, the next step is changing the scene they’ve been trapped in. This is NOT the same as denying that it happened, but rather serves to empower the younger self and thus empower and resource my client on a very deep, foundational level.
Changing the scene also helps reverse whatever negative beliefs were adopted in that moment to make sense of the trauma. These negative beliefs became perceptual filters for my client, coloring their experience of life from that point on. Shedding those filters or actually replacing them with positive new ones is where the real life-changing action takes place.
When we get a good new picture for the younger self, we go through a simple ‘re-imprinting’ process and the new picture actually feels like a real memory—one that essentially overwrites the old traumatic scene.
One reason I really love this work is that once it’s done it’s done, and my client knows it’s over and done. The experience has been “metabolized” if you will, and this makes us stronger and more resilient.
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